Anger is an emotion that we all feel at times. It is part of being human. It is just one of the emotions we all have. Kids and adults alike experience this emotion. When it is under control there is no problem.
It is the over reaction to situations and violent anger that needs to be addressed. We need to learn to control our tempers so that we can get angry without becoming abusive or violent.
Our anger needs to be socially acceptable. In other words we do not want to make a spectacle of ourselves and embarrass everyone around us when we become angered.
We must be able to get angry for a good reason and then make a stand for whatever it is and then let go. It is not acceptable to verbally abuse people in your company because they do not think the same way you do. Becoming violent and abusive at any time is totally unacceptable in society.
Anyone who has this problem can train themselves to step back from situations that ignite their tempers. By learning to pause before you reply will give you time to cool down sufficiently to realise that the situation does not warrant you making a fool out of yourself and embarrassing those around you.
You can get angry as long as you are in control of your emotions and do not let the emotion control you. Anger takes a lot of energy and this energy can be put to good use. Get angry about the poverty in the world and all the injustices and direct this energy into a passion for doing something to change the world. Someone who has passion for a cause can do great things to bring about change in the situation. Controlled anger can be a motivating factor to do good for the society.
How do you know when you are really angry? You will feel intense emotion inside yourself. Your breathing will become faster and as a result your face will become red your muscles will probably tense up and you will have the desire to hurt someone. You will want to scream at them in rage and make them listen to you. These desires that you are experiencing should be the red light to you to know that you are on dangerous ground. Now is the time to stop and retreat from the situation before things get altogether out of hand.
Your anger will become much bigger than the problem which set it off in the first place. It will not matter to you who you are shouting at. If it is someone close to you or a stranger your attitude towards them will be the same. You are now in a position of power and you feel that while you are in control you will say and do as you please.
This is totally the wrong attitude and you will have to take your self to task and immediately stop. If you are going to lose face that is fine but just walk away from the situation and there will be nothing to be sorry about later on. Rather walk away from situations that anger you than go through these emotions.
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