Monday 3 September 2007

Dealing With Others

Dealing With Others
In all application of magnetism to persons, you are urged to remember that your very first goal, always and preeminently, is an agreeable feeling within their minds. You should never try to induce a person to act your way until you have thoroughly established in him a good feeling toward yourself. This is the prime initial step. When such a condition has been secured, you are then ready for the magnetic assault and then only.

When you are dealing with other people, endeavoring magnetically to win them to your wish, you should summon the general magnetic feeling within yourself, will them to do as you desire, and at the same time think of them as already consenting and acting. Your inner condition should be perfectly calm, buoyant, hopeful, whatever the external means employed, your mind should be concentrated upon the thing desired, and its accomplishment should be thought of as now secured.

The response of the person may be delayed, but this should not discourage you, for some minds do not take suggestions (those of your unspoken will are referred to) quickly, and they do not act instantly upon their own thought. It is invariably best to induce people to believe that they are acting on their personal impulse or judgment; they should be made to feel perfectly free, not at all coerced, and that they are doing their own will rather than yours simply because they wish so to do.

We may summarize all these suggestions in the words of a distinguished scientific writer:

"Life is not a bully who swaggers out into the open universe, upsetting the laws of energy in all directions, but rather a consummate strategist, who, sitting in his secret chamber over his wires, directs the movements of a great army." This is a good description of magnetism.

The success-magnetism assumption: We are now ready for the great assumption-principle of magnetism in applied life.

Think of every goal as already reached, of every undertaking as already achieved.

Importance of Good Clothing

Importance of Good Clothing
First impressions are apt to be permanent; it is therefore of importance that they should be favourable. The dress of an individual is that circumstance from which you first form your opinion of him. It is even more prominent than manner, It is indeed the only thing which is remarked in a casual encounter, or during the first interview. It, therefore, should be the first care.

What style is to our thoughts, dress is to our persons. It may supply the place of more solid qualities, and without it the most solid are of little avail. Numbers have owed their elevation to their attention to the toilet. Place, fortune, marriage have all been lost by neglecting it.

Your dress should always be consistent with your age and your natural exterior. That which looks outr, on one man, will be agreeable on another. As success in this respect depends almost entirely upon particular circumstances and personal peculiarities, it is impossible to give general directions of much importance. We can only point out the field for study and research; it belongs to each one's own genius and industry to deduce the results. However ugly you may be, rest assured that there is some style of habiliment which will make you passable.

If, for example, you have a stain upon your cheek which rivals in brilliancy the best Chateau-Margout; or, are afflicted with a nose whose lustre dims the ruby, you may employ such hues of dress, that the eye, instead of being shocked by the strangeness of the defect, will be charmed by the graceful harmony of the colours. Every one cannot indeed be an Adonis, but it is his own fault if he is an Esop.

Almost every defect of face may be concealed by a judicious use and arrangement of hair. Take care, however, that your hair be not of one colour and your whiskers of another; and let your wig be large enough to cover the whole of your red or white hair. It is evident, therefore, that though a man may be ugly, there is no necessity for his being shocking.

Fear! Do You Control It Or Does It Control You?

Fear! Do You Control It Or Does It Control You?
For 19 years Claire was stuck in a relationship that frustrated her and destroyed her self-esteem, but she was too scared to leave. What if it was the wrong decision? What if things turned out worse for her instead of better? What if she would burn the existing bridge and be sorry in hindsight? For 19 years she struggled with the decision. So she spent 19 terrible long years of aggravation, frustration, tears, inhibition, and victimization. 19 years of fear.

However, in the 18th year of her self imposed prison Claire started to work on herself: She began to see a psychologist, took confidence courses, another one in personal leadership and started to explore the World Wide Web. She began to talk to other people rather than just the ones that held her in fear, and she gradually started to understand that the world could be a very promising place with endless possibilities, but that the secret to unfolding any opportunity was inside of her!

So, the very next year, Claire reversed the process: She shut herself down to the oppressor and opened up to the dazzling universe of change. She packed her bags, felt suitable pity but no remorse toward her now powerless tyrant, and took a giant leap into life. Now, five years after making the big step, Claire can't believe how far she came. Yes, it took all her courage to make this huge, life-changing decision, but the rewards were phenomenal! Since that time she has earned a degree, rediscovered her dignity, and finally found inner peace. Has she ever been sorry about her decision? Absolutely not! She just wishes that she had found the strength to do it and discarded her fear 10 years sooner!

Fear is definitely the most important reason why people cease to undertake certain actions. When it comes to fear we get confronted with one of the negative sides of the ability to think. And rightfully so: we manage to come up with tons of reasons why a plan, a product, a more efficient process, a fabulous new venture, or just a cool idea, will not "fly."

We are masters in hurdle-construction, and it's this very fact--the mental creation of blockades to reach an ideal--that either paralyzes us toward starting with something that could be wonderful and rewarding, or causes it to go wrong.

Yet, fear should be seen in its right proportions and its legitimate occurrence. Sometimes people will discourage a marvelous plan not out of fear but out of jealousy or conflicting personal agendas! It's up to you to see these possible reasons in their right perspective and – more importantly -- to prevent them from dispiriting you, especially if you were the one having the brilliant idea in the first place! Let Churchill's shortest yet most powerful speech be your guide in these and all other situations: "Never, never, never give up."

If you are a manager, especially in a large corporation where you are basically as much an employee as any other, it may be understandable that your approach toward the execution of super-ideas will be somewhat more moderate and reserved than if you were leading your own venture. But even as a middle manager at one of the 2000-plus employee-concentrations you can overcome excessive fear and encourage the phenomenon that has grown out to be one of the most popular buzzword of these days: change.

Now, if there have ever been two conflicting phenomena in existence they are fear and change. One cannot stand the other. More strictly: one cannot survive with the other. Fear doesn't allow change, and change cannot happen if there's any fear present. But if today's world thrives on change, shouldn't that mean that fear has to become taboo? If we are taught to hang our mental running shoes around our neck, like the two mice in the management novel "Who Moved My Cheese?" so that we can run whenever a change in our current situation demands that, then we should also understand that fear--although healthy to a moderate degree--is the big enemy here.

And why did I just state that fear should be acceptable to a moderate degree? Because, like any other emotion, it definitely has a positive side to it: a little fear will withhold us from leaping into every new idea without thoroughly considering the consequences; without developing a strategy, and without having a goal set.

All I'm stating here is that your super plan, which is now collecting dusting your supervisor's drawer, your blueprint for a new procedure that's still hanging at H.R., your report on the new product that was so well-received on last Saturday's surprise appearance, could very well remain at point zero because of somebody's fear. Just make sure that such is not the case and that there are responsible, sense making reasons behind any delay. Everything else can be resolved and accelerated. But fear, even if based on past experiences paralyzes: Unjustifiably. Perpetually!

J Benson

Fear: life's number 1 paralyzer!

This article will not really tell you anything new, for that's not the intention. The driving motive to produce this write up is mainly based on alerting you of the how and why of matters; hoping that the very realization of the human emotion to be discussed will result in actions from your side that may have been long overdue.

Fear is definitely the most important reason why people cease to undertake certain actions. When it comes to fear we get confronted with one of the negative sides of the ability to think. And rightfully so: we manage to come up with tons of reasons why a plan, a product, a more efficient process, a fabulous new venture, or just a cool idea, will not "fly." We are masters in hurdle-construction, and it's this very fact--the mental creation of blockades to reach an ideal--that either paralyzes us toward starting with something that could be wonderful and rewarding, or causes it to go wrong.

Yet, fear should be seen in its right proportions and its legitimate occurrence. Sometimes people will discourage a marvelous plan not out of fear but out of jealousy or conflicting personal agendas! It's up to you to see these possible reasons in their right perspective and--more importantly--to prevent them from dispiriting you, especially if you were the one having the brilliant idea in the first place! Let Churchill's shortest yet most powerful speech be your guide in these and all other situations: "Never, never, never give up."

If you are a manager, especially in a large corporation where you are basically as much an employee as any other, it may be understandable that your approach toward the execution of super-ideas will be somewhat more moderate and reserved than if you were leading your own venture. But even as a middle manager at one of the 2000-plus employee-concentrations you can overcome excessive fear and encourage the phenomenon that has grown out to be one of the most popular buzzword of these days: change.

Now, if there have ever been two conflicting phenomena in existence they are fear and change. One cannot stand the other. More strictly: one cannot survive with the other. Fear doesn't allow change, and change cannot happen if there's any fear present. But if today's world thrives on change, shouldn't that mean that fear has to become taboo? If we are taught to hang our mental running shoes around our neck, like the two mice in the management novel "Who Moved My Cheese?" so that we can run whenever a change in our current situation demands that, then we should also understand that fear--although healthy to a moderate degree--is the big enemy here.

And why did I just state that fear should be acceptable to a moderate degree? Because, like any other emotion, it definitely has a positive side to it: a little fear will withhold us from leaping into every new idea without thoroughly considering the consequences; without developing a strategy, and without having a goal set.

All I'm stating here is that your super plan, which is now collecting dust in your supervisor's drawer, your blueprint for a new procedure that's still hanging at H.R., your report on the new product that was so well-received on last Saturday's surprise appearance, could very well remain at point zero because of somebody's fear. Just make sure that such is not the case and that there are responsible, sense making reasons behind any delay. Everything else can be resolved and accelerated. But fear, even if based on past experiences paralyzes--unjustifiably, perpetually!

Burbank, California; November 29, 2002; Joan Marques, MBA, Doctoral Student
(URL: http://www.joanmarques.com)

Thirty simple steps to make time work for you!

Thirty simple steps to make time work for you!
Can't find enough hours in the day, or feel you could use your time far more effectively? Then you need to become a Time Finder. This simple technique uncovers your lost hours and gives you total control of the minutes in your life.

Following this strategy leaves you with inspiration, bright ideas and a sense of fulfilment. Follow the Time Finder Plan and change your life.

Achieving Your Goals

1. Keep a balanced exercise programme - you really do have the time to achieve everything that's important to you, and keeping fit and healthy will help you make the most of it.

2. Enjoy what you do and you'll do it faster without time-wasting. Having clear goals will increase your enjoyment and confidence.

3. Accept the fact that you don't have time for everything. Make conscious choices about what you're going to do. Don't feel obliged - or guilty - about the other things.

4. Continually refine your goals. Make them specific and measurable, so you can monitor your progress.

5. Include all aspects of your life to an equal extent. That's professional, financial, physical/recreational, social, intellectual, cultural and spiritual. Refine and prioritise these goals so you know exactly where you're aiming.

6. Ask yourself how you can make each of these goals happen. When you've identified the necessary actions, success is easier to find.

7. Use specialists to help you with certain problems. Remember - you're not expected to know everything!

How To Take Decisive Action

8. Take actions more decisively and you'll feel more confident. Do everything thoroughly the first time. Being half-hearted gets the job half done, and means you'll have to waste time going back and doing it again.

9. Do one thing at a time. This keeps focus and prevents any loose ends.

10. If a meeting is serving no purpose for your business or personal fulfilment, be brave and cut it short.

11. Reduce overlong telephone calls. Be clear before you start the call what you want to say and what outcomes you want. Make notes to help keep you focused.

12. Recognise that some of your time will be spent on activities outside your control. Don't fight this - it's a fact of life.

13. Set a deadline for each of your tasks and stick to it like glue!

14. Do the most vital tasks now. You'll find you're more relaxed at home.

15. Allow some open space within your day. This helps to keep you flexible and allows for the unexpected.

16. Don't hold off starting something you don't want to do. It rarely gets easier with time.

17. Ask yourself 'would anything terrible happen if I didn't do this priority item?' If the answer's no, then don't waste time on it.

18. Try to find a new technique each day to help gain time.

Time Generating Office Skills

19. Teach yourself to double your reading speed, to take in more information and make your decision-making process swifter and easier.

20. Use time spaces when they appear in your day. Taking the attitude 'it's only half an hour' is not good enough. Within that half hour you could draft a letter, speak to someone or think of a new business contact. All your time is precious.

21. Keep a writing pad on your desk. You'll find it easier to explain details to someone when they can see what you're talking about. You can also make notes as a conversation goes on, and don't have to fill in the gaps later from memory.

22. Be on time for all your meetings, appointments and scheduled events. You don't gain anything from being late, except setting a bad impression and being ill-prepared for business.

23. Use your diary so you know what you have to achieve each day and build in meetings and other commitments around this.

24. Always keep your diary with you so you know what you are meant to be doing!

25. Generate as little paperwork as possible. This way you won't waste time filing it.

26. Continually ask yourself 'what's the most important use of my time right now?'

27. Instead of others coming to you with problems, encourage them to also bring you a possible solution. That way you won't feel put on the spot, and you'll have something on which to base your own solution ideas.

28. Organise your office using the ABC system. Everything you use on a regular basis, class as an A item and always have it on hand. Do the same with B and C items where B are used fairly regularly and C items are for reference only.

29. Clean your desk as you finish work each day, as if your place of work were your bedroom. It means you can return tomorrow refreshed, and work from a clean start. This is a great help both practically and mentally.

30. Keep referring back to this document to check that you're still making the most of your time. Never underestimate the power of efficiency!

J. Benson

Knowing What You Want And Finding The Persistence To Achieve It

Before you can begin to create your own strategy for the accumulation of fortune, it may sound strange, but it's important to develop a concrete understanding of money itself. You must appreciate what it does, how it works and where to find it. This 'money consciousness' is necessary to help you develop perseverance in your pursuit of wealth.

Fortune won't come your way if your mind isn't prepared to receive it. Occasional efforts to apply the rules on desire will get you nowhere. You must persevere with relentless effort, applying your rules to achieve your goals until your mind works in this new way as second nature. Only then can you develop the 'money consciousness' necessary for the achievement of your goal.

It's vital to understand that both success and poverty are actually the results of effort. The amount of exertion you expend to achieve success is comparable to the effort with which you attract poverty. The only difference is that an awareness of poverty is developed without the conscious application of the rules. People are rarely born with 'money consciousness'. It must be created to ensure that money, rather than poverty, is attracted to the person whose mind has been prepared.

Success comes directly as a result of persistence. Without persistence it is difficult to win. In most cases, half-hearted attempts at your goals mean you experience defeat before you even begin.

Life gives you what you demand if you build defences against all opposing forces. Defeat is a temporary condition and sooner than expected the person who persists gets what they demand from life. If you can't be persistent then you won't achieve noteworthy success in any endeavour.

So how do you develop persistence?

The answer rests in focusing your mind on definite causes. Among these are:

1. WILL POWER - Persistence can be achieved when you concentrate your thoughts on building plans towards the attainment of a definite goal.

2. DESIRE - When you pursue your desire you can develop persistence.

3. A DISTINCT, CLEAR PLAN OR GOAL - Organise your plan and know what you want. Knowing this is the first step towards the development of persistence. With strong motivation you can overcome most difficulties.

4. ALLIANCES - Alliances and co-operation with others who share your dream naturally build persistence.

5. HABIT - To develop persistence you must make it a habit. The mind becomes used to what it feeds on daily, not weekly.

6. ACCURATE INFORMATION - Do not guess at anything. Endeavour to get enough information before you act on your idea. Knowing that your plans are sound and based on accurate knowledge encourages persistence.

7. FIRMNESS OF DECISION - When you remain firm and resolute to your decision, it encourages persistence. You need to believe in your ability to carry out your plans to encourage persistence.

Jeffrey Benson
How2Become - Be What You Want

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