Build Confidence With Strategies
That Really Work
Wouldn’t it be grand if we could just wake
up in the morning, brush our teeth and put on our confidence for the day?
Well, for those of us who don’t have a
drawer full, here are 4 simple strategies that will help you build confidence.
1. Accentuate the positive.
Be your own best friend. What do you tell a
friend who’s tried something new, whether or not it turned out well? At least
you tried something new- good for you!
Accentuate the effort it took in doing something,
rather than the final outcome. (You’d do it for your best friend, wouldn’t
you?) We all have limitations. The key is to accept that you have them without
dwelling on them.
2. Don’t be afraid to take some risks.
When you are about to embark on a new
experience, do you spend your time worrying so much about the outcome you
aren’t enjoying the moment? If you look at new things in your life as a chance
to learn something, it opens up the possibility of you becoming good at that
something.
If you spend your time dreading the
outcome, you’ll turn any opportunity there might have been into a failure.
What’s more, we can’t grow when we are frozen with fear. Don’t set yourself up
to fail. If you do, look at number one, again!
3. Use self-talk to keep assumptions away.
We all use self-talk. The key is to use it
in a way that we don’t form bad thoughts that can lead to permanent doubts.
Catch yourself using negative self-talk and cancel it with something positive
and not based on assumptions!
Build confidence by not expecting
perfection from yourself at all times. You can only do your very best at
something. Nobody can do everything perfectly, so why do you assume that you
should be able to?
4. Learn to rely on your self-evaluation.
If you always rely on the opinion of
others, you’ll always be wondering what they think! That does nothing to build
confidence – it tears it down, by giving away your personal power to others.
Focus on the real you, inside, to find out
how you feel about your own actions, how you’ve been doing your job, etc.
You’ll be developing a strong sense of who you are.
It’s important to remember that no one can
be self-confident all of the time. In fact, you’ll build confidence faster and
easier once your realize that.
Most people with low self-esteem or who
lack in confidence are that way because of unrealistic expectations. They
expect more from themselves than they do others.
A person with low self-esteem will think
nothing about calling him or herself a ‘stupid idiot.’ They wouldn’t dream of
saying that to someone else. To build confidence it’s a good idea to be your
own best friend.
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